patch: emit deflated binary patches (optionally)

This takes the `--stat` and related example options in the example
diff.c program and converts them to use the `git_diff_get_stats`
API which nicely formats stats for you.

I went to add bar-graph scaling to the stats formatter and noticed
that the `git_diff_stats` structure was holding on to all of the
`git_patch` objects.  Unfortunately, each of these objects keeps
the full text of the diff in memory, so this is very expensive.  I
ended up modifying `git_diff_stats` to keep just the data that it
needs to keep and allowed it to release the patches.  Then, I added
width scaling to the output on top of that.

In making the diff example program match 'git diff' output, I ended
up removing an newline from the sumamry output which I then had to
compensate for in the email formatting to match the expectations.

Lastly, I went through and refactored the tests to use a couple of
helper functions and reduce the overall amount of code there.

This makes the lock management on the index a little bit broader,
having a number of routines hold the lock across looking up the
item to be modified and actually making the modification.  Still
not true thread safety, but more pure index modifications are now
safe which allows the simple cases (such as starting up a diff
while index modifications are underway) safe enough to get the
snapshot without hitting allocation problems.

As part of this, I simplified the allocation of index entries to
use a flex array and just put the path at the end of the index
entry.  This makes every entry self-contained and makes it a
little easier to feel sure that pointers to strings aren't
being accidentally copied and freed while other references are
still being held.

This makes the index iterator honor the GIT_ITERATOR_IGNORE_CASE
and GIT_ITERATOR_DONT_IGNORE_CASE flags without modifying the
index data itself.  To take advantage of this, I had to export a
number of the internal index entry comparison functions.  I also
wrote some new tests to exercise the capability.

The usefulness of these helpers came up for me while debugging
some of the iterator changes that I was making, so since they
have also been requested (albeit indirectly) I thought I'd include
them.

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