for memoization on a class that uses slots.
- apply many more __slots__.  mem use for nova now at 46% savings

improved in conjunction with loader directives such as
:func:`.joinedload` and :func:`.contains_eager` such that if
two :meth:`.PropComparator.of_type` modifiers of the same
base type/path are encountered, they will be joined together
into a single "polymorphic" entity, rather than replacing
the entity of type A with the one of type B.  E.g.
a joinedload of ``A.b.of_type(BSub1)->BSub1.c`` combined with
joinedload of ``A.b.of_type(BSub2)->BSub2.c`` will create a
single joinedload of ``A.b.of_type((BSub1, BSub2)) -> BSub1.c, BSub2.c``,
without the need for the ``with_polymorphic`` to be explicit
in the query.
fixes #3256

:meth:`.Query.outerjoin`, or the standalone :func:`.orm.join` /
:func:`.orm.outerjoin` functions to a single-inheritance subclass will
now include the "single table criteria" in the ON clause even
if the ON clause is otherwise hand-rolled; it is now added to the
criteria using AND, the same way as if joining to a single-table
target using relationship or similar.
fixes #3222

- prop.compare() isn't needed; replace with prop._with_parent()
for relationships
- update docs in orm/interfaces

we're now using; rework them fully so that their behavioral contract
is consistent regarding adapter.traverse() vs. adapter.columns[],
add a full suite of tests including advanced wrapping scenarios
previously only covered by test/orm/test_froms.py and
test/orm/inheritance/test_relationships.py
- identify several cases where label._order_by_label_clause would be
corrupted, e.g. due to adaption or annotation separately
- add full tests for #3148

The "anonymize label" logic is now generalized to ClauseAdapter, and takes
place when the anonymize_labels flag is sent, taking effect for all
.columns lookups as well as within traverse() calls against the label
directly.
- traverse() will also memoize what it gets in columns, so that
calling upon traverse() / .columns against the same Label will
produce the same anonymized label.  This is so that AliasedClass
produces the same anonymized label when it is accessed per-column
(e.g. SomeAlias.some_column) as well as when it is applied to a Query,
and within column loader strategies (e.g. query(SomeAlias)); the
former uses traverse() while the latter uses .columns
- AliasedClass now calls onto ColumnAdapter
- Query also makes sure to use that same ColumnAdapter from the AliasedClass
in all cases
- update the logic from 0.9 in #1068 to make use of the same
_label_resolve_dict we use for #2992, simplifying how that works
and adding support for new scenarios that were pretty broken
(see #3148, #3188)